Tuesday, June 24, 2008

FILs love for teetotalers

So, one of the parents (perhaps a future father in law), who called my home, told - We went through your son's profile on Orkut and it says Drinking : Occasionally.

My dad who was never internet savvy, a little surprised and with a quizzical expression - obviously, it took him some time to understand that orkut profile was something like a matrimony site profile. He told - Its his profile. So I really don't know

Then the guy on the other side goes You told us that your son was a very disciplined person and we saw this on his profile. What does occasionally mean? Is it every week, month or year. You see, we can't make those assumptions

My dad was like - Okay, I don't interfere in all of this. Finally what do you have to say?

From the other side - We discussed this with our family members and we have decided that we will not take this forward

The conversation ended somewhere there.

Whatever it was. What's this big love that some dad's and their daughter's have, for teetotalers?

And what is the goddamn connection between drinking and being disciplined? Then, what do we call people in the armed forces as? Indisciplined fighters for the nation just because a good majority of them have a few drinks when they get together?

I was like, to whoever that ignorant parent was - Dude, do you know the meaning of being disciplined?

And then you tell me that you discussed this with your entire family!!! Me having one or two pegs every 2-3 months or so, is a subject of discussion for your entire family?

Gracious God, what is this you are getting me into?


Uff, there are a lot of supposedly educated parents in this world who think that if someone drinks, then he will beat up their daughter in the middle of the night or maybe make her life miserable. Thanks to the mega serials, the rickshaw-wallah and the bricklayer.

8 comments:

b a l a j i said...

kazhuthukku vandhadhu orkut-oda pochu...

vyaas said...

happened to browse through your blog gud1 !!
Really it has become a trend to search orkut accounts for matrimony purpose !!
And people have notions like if u have more than 5000 scraps , u r some flirt kind of guy especially when a no of your frens and fans are female.
if u have written occassional ppl raise an wyebrow as u told.
worst even if i write smoking quit .
and "learning from past relationship"if
u listen "rock and worse play guitar or drums"
the image they create in mind is
this is some net savvy doper , on internet to flirt who drinks heavily and
then plays watever crap he calls rock with shots of LSD or marijuana.
and in that case araranged marriages are big trouble :)

Anonymous said...

muhahahaha... ithukkuthaan orkutla naan profiley vechikkala... but seriously you are better off not getting into families that think "drinking" means "not disciplined". what was your father's reaction to the whole thing? but just curious, would you be ok if your partner takes to occassional drinkin?

Mama said...

@virender - i can totally agree. nowadays people make their own dumb assumptions.

@moushmi - my dad wasn't bothered. he was clear that such a family wouldn't suit me. i dont mind if my partner drinks as long as she knows how to be in control.

Unknown said...

Mama you would be surprised the more picky people get about small things more they miss the big picture ( this case it is you being a nice guy).That is why I always recommend you make your own way fellow. If people start judging by orkut profiles it shows there level of awareness!!

Anonymous said...

LOL...mama this is hilarious!! Tell the ur future FIL that we plan to open a champagne at ur wedng and he has to bear with it!

Yi Bhopal said...

Thank god mine was a love marriage .... At this rate, I doubt if I would ever get married especially since I seem to have all the bad habits!!!

Mama said...

@Sid - thanks machaan. hope all ends well.

@nithya - haha. hopefully he knows what champagne is and doesn't think that is something to do with Pain relief.

@NK - you bet. according to the people i have met, these ARE bad habits.